Reg and Rachel’s story
Reg had been very poorly in the John Radcliffe hospital for five weeks, and now terminally ill, a lady from Sobell House came to talk to us and together we decided that Sobell House was the best place for him to be. Of course, at that point I didn’t really know that it was the best place for him.
The next day, my mum, daughter and I arrived at Sobell House with Reg. The minute we stepped into the building we felt calmer, happier, and well looked after. A nurse took us off to tell us about Sobell House and showed us round while Reg got settled in. Reg then spent six weeks at the hospice. In that time, we spent every day with him and family came to visit. We could sit in the garden, watch TV with him, or sit in the sun house if was too wet to go out. A nurse even showed us how to order a McDonalds to us as that’s what Reg really fancied to eat one day. We ate the same meals as Reg as a family from their kitchen which meant a lot, and Reg did music therapy and had a massage which lifted his mood. The doctors, nurses and physiotherapists all gave such great care and we could ask questions at any time. For six weeks it felt like a home from home.
Reg had improved a lot so on 18th September 2019 he was able to come home with the help of Sobell’s social workers and occupational therapist, who came to the house to help me set up our bedroom for the hospital bed and equipment needed. We had carers in place and also had a palliative nurse from Sobell, who is so lovely, helpful and reassuring. I can phone the palliative nurses at Sobell with questions on days that the palliative nurse doesn’t come. Reg continues to stay well and at the moment we have had to adjust to the Covid-19 pandemic. Although the visits have temporarily stopped from the nurse, and Reg is unable to visit the day centre, I am not on my own as we keep in touch by phone and as always they are very kind, helpful and reassuring. So I now know that making the decision for Reg to go into Sobell House really was the best thing to do and we are eternally grateful to each and every person from housekeeping to consultants there.